Get Unstuck

You’ve been trying to change things to make them better.

Maybe you’ve had good ideas and successes.

But the twists and turns of reality have worn on you, drawing out resentments, fears, regrets and the like.

You have a sense that there must be something you can do to make things better.

With so many options, ranging from brain-based therapies to ancient practices to wellness gurus’ master classes…

where do you go from here?

I have a powerful solution.

It will make more sense if we first take a look at what gets stuck and why.

From an evolutionary perspective, we can see that a root cause of any sense of “stuckness” come from deep within our brains.

Over time, the brains within our ancestors developed an adaptation system that prioritized protecting them from physical danger over anything else. Deep within, our brains are wired to scan for threat and to highlight and store information having to do with threat.

Rather than waiting to see what will happen, deeper mind stays a step ahead. Using stored information it makes predictions about what is about to happen. To conserve energy, it does not fully process all incoming information. Instead, it filters in such a way that favors matching what was expected. If you survive a perceived threat, it takes that as a win - that’s all the evidence it needs to conclude that it was correct in its prediction. Whatever was thought and done to manage the threat is preserved as the go-to strategy for dealing with that threat. As the deeper mind gathers more and more evidence, these thoughts and feelings get more and more engrained as the automatic response. This amazing survival mechanism helped promote us to the top of the food chain.

To further our success, our brains developed additional abilities

We can think of early humans producing tools and starting fires, morphing into even greater capabilities that especially distinguishes us from other life forms. Our ancestors came up with detailed language to communicate ideas with each other. They developed the ability to generate thoughts about things that weren’t happening at the time. You could say they were able to “time travel” in their minds, not only replaying simulations of past mistakes they could conceived of future threats. They generated conceptual models of themselves, of others and the world. Unreal as they were, these self-images, other-images and beliefs about the world were experienced as real, glued together with continual strings of narratives and beliefs. These are all quite sophisticated additions to their abilities to adapt and survive.

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How we get stuck has to do with the interplay between how these different facets of mind operate.

The deeper mind is designed to react to actual physical threat. When a threat is detected it sets in motion a reaction designed to get rid of the threat. Once the sense of threat is passed, it resets the systems to their normal operations. Meanwhile, our more abstract part of mind enables us to think about something that happened 10 years ago or imagine some possibility happening in the future. If disturbing, the deeper mind may pick up on a threat. It engages the thoughts and actions stored as the strategy for dealing with that type of threat.

Needless to say, most of all of this is happening outside of our awareness.

As we’ve navigated through life trying to bring in more joy and satisfaction, our inner workings have been following their own directives.

We try to make changes and the inner mind tightens down on keeping things status quo. Over the eons, this worked well. The familiar is much easier to predict for and manage. What is not regarded though automatically however, are things like contentment and joy. This can get quite perplexing as we strive for these worthwhile goals but end up in some pretty outrageous places! We get tangled up in some thinking loops, and acting in ways that numb us out or have us lashing out.

The good news is there are many excellent ways to untangle and loosen these. Various contemplative practices teach us how train to our attention in ways that get us closer to experiencing ourselves as wise, good-natured, flexible-minded and courageous. There are a multitude of therapeutic practices geared to help us practice reframing, develop coping skills, analyze patterns and resolve issues.

My approach weaves together what I have found to be the best of what has worked, for my clients and myself.

The basis of my approach is called Rapid Resolution Therapy®, designed to pinpoint areas of stuckness and then train the deeper mind to update how your mind automatically responds so its more to your liking. I layer in elements from other practices I am trained and experienced in, particularly breathwork, meditation and Emotionally Focused Therapy.

My top goal is to make a big difference for you. Whether you come to see me once or a number of times, I treat each meeting as if it my one and only chance. I’m looking for you to be satisfied over time, not feeling like you need to see me over time!

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“I tried different therapies/therapists to alleviate these issues…none of these approaches seemed to work for more than a few weeks…just a few sessions with Rinda freed me from these.”

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“Rinda genuinely cares about my well being and state of mind. She provided me with the necessary tools to change my thinking, which in turn has brought some clarity and peace into my life. I am so grateful for her!”

“Definitely not what I thought it was going to be. Rinda was absolutely AMAZING!”

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-A bit of bio

I worked in the corporate world until after I had my first child, when I discovered that I wanted to trade the “work” life for the day-to-day of raising my daughter. It felt fringe-y at the time. “Staying home” was not at all on my radar as I went through college and grad school. I felt weird and awkward at times, especially as my fellow stay-at-home friends peeled off and went back to work. It still felt right though. I felt like I was less responding to expectations and more to my own instinct and intuition.

Meanwhile, my first born was in preschool. She loved her little school, and the teachers loved having her there - she was “such a good girl” - and that felt awful to me. It seemed like her zest for life, creativity and learning was getting funneled into people-pleasing and achievement. It reminded of what I had gone through growing up. I became obsessed with how to raise my daughters (and myself!) to be resilient and authentic. I felt so fortunate to got involved in a really amazing little school. i got to teach there, and learning was hands on and engaging for all 3 of us!

a new career

Once my youngest got super busy with high school, I decided to go back to work, but on a new career path. My family had spent years deepening our relationships with each other, with others and ourselves, exploring interests, rich opportunities and challenges. My husband and I had worked hard to clear up much of our own personal issues. The more we cleared up (and continue to!) the more freedom we ALL have to flourish. I became motivated to help others in freeing themselves from whatever had been driving their conflicts and dissatisfaction…

With that in mind, I went back to school to become a mental health therapist and set out in my new career. Soon, my excitement and high hopes came crashing down. I found I had to spend a lot of energy navigating red tape rules dictated by organizations that didn’t seem to care whether anyone got better. It was a stressful and non-fulfilling way to get a paycheck. I decided to strike out on my own.

still searching…

I went to a slew of different trainings, looking for one that resonated. That’s when I discovered one that was waaayyy different. While many treatment approaches seem to be focused on either being cookie-cutter so the insurance companies like them, or too time-consuming, cut right to making people feel better, fast.

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Rapid Resolution Therapy® (RRT)

At my first training, attendees were invited to have their concerns addressed right there in front of the group. One who volunteered had witnessed her suicidal big sister shoot herself in the head decades prior. She had struggled with grief, guilt, regret, flashbacks and deep pain ever since. I watched in amazement as those painful emotions disappeared for her - I actually saw her facial expression soften and her whole demeanor change. A couple of years later we ran into each other. She reported that not only had the pain and misery disappeared, she continued to have peaceful and loving memories of and deep connection to her sister.

I dedicated many years of my practice to my learning, teaching and refining of the skills to the ones I was introduced to in that first training. As one of the first Certified Specialists, I supervised colleagues, taught many classes and spent years on the board of the Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence (ISSV), a sister non-profit affiliated with the Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy (IRRT), the educational organization for RRT.

something new

I have been training in a robust mindfulness approach called Unified Mindfulness (UM), a whole system of mindfulness techniques. I believe the two systems complement each other well - RRT is where I teach your deeper mind and UM to help me teach you how to teach your own deeper mind!

FAQs

  • Many other approaches are diagnosis or problem focused and much longer term, often with more surface results. Most tend to be top down approaches, focused on logic and reason and other conscious processes.

    RRT is a resolution-focused, strength based and experiential approach that is based on cutting edge neuroscience. It works 'bottom up', recognizing that the subconscious doesn’t respond to logic or rationality, and that most problems are due to powerful subconscious roadblocks. Clearing these up automatically free up your attention and energy so you can do more of what you love (and what the world needs!)

  • Effects from trauma and other disturbing events, including childhood abuse, sexual assault, PTSD, nightmares and flashbacks.

    Emotional turmoil such as anxiety, phobias, grief, guilt, shame, resentment, anger and heartbreak.

    Unwanted behaviors such as compulsive eating or procrastinating.

    Worry and rumination.

    Self-image.

    Unconscious blocks or conflicts.

  • I meet with adults 18+ who have been experiencing troubling feelings, thoughts and/or behaviors and are interested in effective and efficient results.

  • We start with me getting an understanding about what you’ve been experiencing. I then lead you through various experiences designed to free you from what had been troubling you. Because most issues are largely rooted in the subconscious, the processes we’ll use will target subconscious processing. This means that rather than just using logic and reason and conversation which are conscious processes, we’ll use rich, sensory experiences that delink the unwanted subconscious reactions so they are replaced with more beneficial ones. Every so often we’ll check to see how much change and improvement we've been able to create so far. Clients are often surprised at how much we can get done in a session.

  • I like to give us 2 hours, although rather than watch the clock, we’ll finish when you experience resolution.

    For example, if you came in with intense resentment toward an ex, we will know you are finished when you are delighted that you can no longer even feel that resentment.

  • A 2 hour session is $395. 1 or 2 sessions with me can easily outdo months or years of traditional therapy. This is a short-term, targeted approach that creates actual shifts in how you experience yourself.

    I don’t want finances to prevent care. If you are experiencing financial hardship you can let me know what fee fits your situation.

  • Cash, credit card, debit card, HSA (Health Savings Account) card, FSA (Flexible Spending Account) card, or electronic transfer (such as Zelle)

    Payment is due at the end of each session.

  • 1 or 2 sessions often provides the relief being sought. Ironically, some issues that people have the least hope in resolving can be resolved very quickly, like panic attacks or traumatic experiences, For more general issues such as anxiety or ongoing relationship difficulties, we may meet several times, each time freeing you up more and more. Any one session is intended to move you toward resolution as quickly and effectively as possible. Clients are frequently surprised and pleased by how quickly and painlessly their issues can be resolved.

  • You can contact me for a session by filling out the form in the contact section.

    Once we confirm a time you will receive a link to a short intake questionnaire and consent forms. Once they are completed there is nothing left to do but look forward to our session.

    You will receive a zoom link the morning of our session.